Touching the breasts can be a powerfully arousing experience. But how should you go about it?
Kissing, licking, and stroking are good ways to start. But don’t forget that there are other areas that can be arousing, like the underboob and side boob.
Cupping a nipple can also be intensely pleasurable, as can sucking on it.
1. Start with the lips
Many men are unsure of when and how to touch a woman’s breasts, leading them to shy away from the area altogether. Others fumble with the touch, often making gropes and other advances that are inappropriate or creepy.
However, there is a very simple way to get her to enjoy this part of the body and become even more turned on. First, kiss her. Lightly licking her lips and nibbling them can arouse her and help prepare her for more intimate kissing. Just be sure that your mouth is moist, not dripping with saliva. Wet kisses are a turn-off for most women, and it may lead her to feel uncomfortable.
As the session continues, move your lips to her earlobes and chin. If her breathing intensifies and she responds to the touching, it’s time to move down her neck to the nape and shoulders. This is an area that’s very sensitive and arousing for most girls, unless they’re ticklish in which case you’ll have to be very careful. This part of the body can also trigger orgasm in some women, so it’s well worth exploring.
2. Move to the nipples
The nipples are one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body, and many women can achieve orgasms from having them kissed. However, it’s important to remember that not every woman will enjoy breast play the same way. Strong groping might feel amazing to one woman, but it could hurt or drive another crazy.
Instead, take your time playing with her nipples. Lick them and use a variety of tongue textures, including circular and slow flicking movements. Make sure to also touch the dark area that encircles the nipple, called the areola. It’s a great place to add texture and arousal by using your tongue to trace the edges, or blowing gently to create a cool sensation.
You can even have your partner suck on the nipples (but not as hard as you would on her lips). Nipple play can be enhanced with warming oils or lotions, or even with ice to send chills and encourage an instant nipple erection. Cupping the nipples from behind, or kissing along the sides of her breasts (the underboob and side boob) are other ways to tease and stimulate this under-appreciated erogenous zone.
3. Touch the areola
The areola, the circular dark-colored area that encircles each nipple, contains Montgomery’s glands that secrete a lubricating oil to protect the skin and nipples from chafing during breastfeeding. It also has blood vessels and lymph vessels that transport lymph, a fluid that helps the immune system fight infection. This area is particularly sensitive to touch and arousal.
Try tracing circles on her areola with your lips, then begin to use the flat part of your tongue to cover more nipple surface. Move your tongue slowly, covering the entire areola in a flicking motion.
Once she’s comfortable with this, start gently massaging her nipples with gentle strokes that increase in pressure. If you’re feeling especially horny, try pinching her nipples. This will send a rush of sensation throughout her body and help her get even more aroused. Remember, it’s important to pay attention to your partner’s reactions to know how hard or soft to press. Some women may need more pressure, while others will respond better to less. The key is to find the right amount of sensation that turns your partner on without hurting her.
4. Suck on the nipples
The nipples are a sensitive area. They need to be handled gently at first and increased in intensity gradually, but not too quickly. If you go too hard too soon, it can turn her off. This is why you should always start with foreplay to warm up your partner’s boobs and nipples. Try kissing her breasts and tracing her collarbone with your fingers. Play with different temperatures and see which ones she responds to best.
Women love being stroked, licked, and kissed on their boobs. This can lead to nipple orgasms. In fact, a nipple orgasm is often the most intense type of orgasm that can occur.
You can also play with her nipples by flicking them and squeezing them. Be sure to pay attention to her non-verbal cues and continue nipple play until she is begging for more.
5. Touch the sides of the breasts
Touching a woman’s breasts is incredibly sensual, and some women can even reach orgasm from it. But it’s important to know when to do it, and how to do it in a way that feels natural.
A good place to start is by gently touching the sides of her breasts. This can be done with a light touch or with more pressure. Some people find that stroking or lightly pinching the areolas can be extremely pleasurable.
The next step is to move to the nipples. Make a relaxed ‘peace’ or ‘Vulcan’ sign with your hands and slowly circle around her nipples. If she’s ok with it, you can also try licking the nipples and sucking on them. Some women like a biting sensation, while others prefer it to be light and circular.
After you’ve done this, you can try moving your hand up her nipples to the bra straps. If she’s ok with this, you can slide your hand up her back to rest on her bare shoulder. If she’s still ok with this, you can then move your hand down her shirt and rest it on her stomach.